A start with a difference…

It is almost the end of January again. And here we are, risking to slip into the same patterns as last year, picking up speed with the risk of thinking “same old, same old”. But it doesn’t have to be that!

Remember what Tony Schwartz said:

“We live in a gray zone, constantly juggling activities but rarely fully engaging in any of them – or fully disengaging from any of them. The consequence is that we settle for a pale version of the possible.”
Take a few moments today, when you can, to pause… (if not now, come back to this later, but do come back).

Take a few deep breaths and become aware of the you that are present in this moment. Do not try to DO (think) anything profound – just give yourself a few moments to BE present. What is it that will drive you this year and what expectations will the ego place on you which will create pressure? How can you be good to yourself, how can you give yourself space? What is it that keeps you from fully engaging or disengaging in a specific moment?

Remember that change (shift) happens through small, practical, sustainable steps, not big leaps. And as we come to the end of the first month of this year, it is a good time to stop and think which small changes you can make this year that will keep you from the “same old”, “same old” patterns? Think small. How can you make sure that you do not settle for the pale version of the possible?

Here’s a question: If there is one thing that you could do this year (or not do), that will create space for you to be more engaged what would it be? Think small. It might be a moment or space every day to take a deep breath. It might be to be more aware of a specific tree or hill that you pass every morning on your way to work. It might be to be more present when you watch your children play or to listen better in a specific relationship.

Awaken to what is emerging for you…

How do you respond to this awakening? Write is down, put a reminder on your phone or share it with somebody to make yourself more accountable. You are not doing it for anybody else – do it for yourself!

May 2017 be a year with small sustainable and aware steps, with lots of soul, where you won’t settle for the pale version of the possible!

Go slow!


It has been a good few weeks since we gathered organisations, leaders, coaches, psychologists, pastors and individuals for a week with Brian Draper. I am sharing a few personal reflections to keep us aware, to pass it on if you like and to be present to what is emerging amongst us. My overbearing experience during this week was that it doesn’t matter what the context is, we are all looking for the same thing – ourselves! Whether we talked to business leaders, coaches or individuals during the retreat, people were able to re-connect with themselves, their surroundings, God and what they are part of. I realised that it is through small sustainable practical steps that we move into our own journey of transformation – not the big grand achievements, rather the simple stuff. That is what makes SHIFT HAPPEN!

I again realised how in different roles and contexts of life, our own ego-talk pressures us into comparison, competition and control and it was fascinating to help individuals to stop and “overhear” their own ego-talk and think about the effect it has on life, work, family etc. This realisation helps us to move into spaces of collaboration (instead of competition), relationship (not comparison), and just claiming our own gifts (instead of control).  Through this I had to ask the question again: “what matters most to me”? Isn’t this a question that in our fast paced world we need to continuously cultivate and be honest about?

In my own journey with Spiritual Intelligence my belief was strengthened that we need to help each other to move toward soulfulness through small practical sustainable steps and I am so excited to continue working with organisations, leaders and individuals towards the path less taken towards a life of more meaning, more connection and less competition! May you take the time to experience the small nudges of your soul and receive the wisdom to know how and when to act.